Time you want to make an introduction in the book my friend , M. Iwan Januar 2003 last ( Also the Teenage Heaven title ) , I read all the contents of the article for the purpose of giving a touch of flavor and the information in the introduction that I will make . At that time there was an intriguing article , titled : Your boyfriend is not your wife . Now after more than 8 years , I kepikiran to write with a slightly different title , but the essence must necessarily equal . 's Just a different of the word of " wife " to " husband " . Anyway , if traced on Google with the keyword " Your girlfriend is not your husband " there are more than 24 thousand entries in cyberspace articles containing the sentence and the title . So already loads. But , I still want to write with a title like this in addition to the unique , as well as the moment is very fitting for this time . But do not worry , God willing, a different mode of delivery even if the solution is not much different .
Teman2 , Qadarullah I ( writer ) often come to help the print edition of the magazine distribution to the schools . I can see up close , explore the child's feelings about his teachers . Not a few teachers who share or vent about the condition of the students in the school . Especially the slang freely with the opposite sex . I also realize that it is not easy to change the condition of those who already suck this melting . Limitation of association between men and women that do not exist already fairly safe distance again . How not , many children are not just a girl holding hands with her boyfriend , but I entered a very intimate level : sag ( icky , emangnya monkeys use gelayutan all ! ) . Hehehe .. I mean : a girl 's that very closely by the hand of her boyfriend , until her head already nyender - nyender to the guy 's arm . Incidentally boyfriend towering Petronas Towers tub , while girls in mini-sized . So , Bener right half gelayutan ? Non Ckckck ... conscious , it is not your husband 's that guy ! ( which I 've seen worse behavior models gini nih students from schools labeled religion . Oops ! )
Teman2 , the condition of boy-girl relationships among teens weve already many are excessive . Yes , although some say future ' handrails just wrote really at issue , but for me it's been heavy offense . It was already close to adultery , Bener ! Well , just do not approach adultery be especially adultery . So true word of Allah Ta'ala . in al - Quran ( which means) : " And come not nigh to fornication ; actual adultery was a heinous act and an evil way " ( Surah al - Israa : 32 )
His sin how is that? Wow , great euy ! Imam Ahmad said : " I do not know a sin after sin kills the soul - which is greater than the sin of adultery . "
Allaah says (which means ) : " And those who do not worship any other god along with Allah and do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden ( to kill ) except with ( reason ) is true , and do not fornicate , so whoever did it , surely he gets ( retaliation ) sin (it) , ( ie ) torment will be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection , and he will be forever in torment , in a state of humiliation except those who repent ... " ( Surah al - Furqaan [ 25 ] : 68-70 )
In this verse , according to Ibn Qayyim al - Iman Jauziyah , God confront adultery with shirk and killing a soul , and a verdict in the penalty is eternal torment double weight , as long as the perpetrators are not neutralize it by means repent , believe and do good deeds .
Duh horrified really. So , not until you deh involved adultery . Including the need to be aware that abstinence is not a desperate attempt bin close to adultery . The reason , few people directly adultery when met with the opposite sex . At least there's no process initially . Courtship , for example . Well , dating is the gateway to adultery tuh . I'm sure really if that path with boy-girl school , holding hands ( especially the really intimate jalannnya until the guy hugging his girlfriend waist ) must again courtship . Let's admit ! Conscious yes , your boyfriend is not your husband . Not entitled to intimate - tuh mesraan despite interest you guys . For the guys also do easement , girlfriend not your wife . Not yet valid . Ride a motorcycle without a license wrote a ticket , let alone a motor that you carry is not no vehicle registration and BPKB her , might be seized tuh ama motorcycle police officer . That means , a girl who you hug the waist , you ride on a bicycle on the bike your bike , you chat with all night laughing - ketiwi telephone is not your wife . Unlawful to engage in activities that can be conducted by a husband and wife . And of course his actions violated the rules of Allah Ta'ala . and His Messenger . Ati - ati teman2 ya !
Keep your eyes !
According to Imam Ibn Qayyim al - Jauziyah , because the end of the base of this vile fornication of the eyes , then God put the command to turn over the eye before the command to keep the pubic . Many major disaster whose origins are of the view . Like a great fire origin was a small spark . That is why , at first only the view , then delusion , further concrete steps , the next there was a disaster that was a big mistake ( adultery ) .
Imam Ibn Qayyim also convey that whoever could keep four things it means that he has saved his religion . The four things are: Al - Lahazhat ( first look ) , Al - Khatharat ( thoughts that come to mind ) , Al - Lafazhat ( tongue and speech ) , Al - Khathawat ( concrete steps for a deed ) .
The Messenger of Allaah alaihi wassallam said : " The view that eye ( like ) a poisoned arrow from a wide variety of arrows of the devil. Whoever gaze from the beauty - beauty of the woman , God delights in passing in his heart until the day he met him " (Ahmad )
Repeated view is that the biggest lighter to light a fire until the fire burned with longing . People who looked at with only cursory rarely get a sense in love . But over and repeat the view that is the source of destruction . Therefore , the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam commanded us to subdue the view that the liver is maintained. From Jarir ibn Abd Allah , he said ,
سألت رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - عن نظر الفجاءة فأمرنى أن أصرف بصرى
" I asked the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam on view only briefly ( not intentionally ) . Then the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam commanded me that I immediately turned my gaze . " [ HR . Muslim no. 2159 ]
Mujahid said ,
غض البصر عن محارم الله يورث حب الله
" Subjecting the views of various things forbidden by Allah , will lead to a love of God . " [ Majmu ' Al- Fataawa , 15/394 , Dar al Wafa ' , third printing , in 1426 H ] . Means hold the views of women who are not mahram will cause a sense of God's love . Subjecting the view here is there are two kinds of same-sex genitalia looked and looked at women who are not mahram .
Three avail of lower his gaze have been mentioned by the Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah [ Majmu ' Al Fataawa , 15/420-426 ] .
First : It would taste sweet and delicious faith . Whoever leaves something for Allah , He will replace it with a better one.
Second : It will shed light on the heart and will have a hunch that is so brilliant .
Third : It would be more encouraging.
Allah Almighty revealed verse 30-31 of the letter an- Nuur : " Say to the man who believed : " Let their gaze , and maintaining his cock ; such it is purer for them , surely Allah is Aware of what is they do . Say to the believing women : " Let their gaze , and maintaining his cock , and they do not show her jewelry , except for the ( usual ) appear thereof . Cover with a cloth and let them crippled to his chest , and not to show off her jewelry , " ( verse Nuur [ 24 ] :30 - 31 )
Since then the Muslims are commanded to keep the view can bring their lust .
Well , if my friends frequent guy right eyes darting like a thief would look in a girl fitting clothesline . Moreover girlfriend shiny clear ( dishes Kalee ! ) . Sometimes when it's a boy to join the gang going wild added . For example , judging a girl who passes in front of them personified by car . Once there was a girl with a fantastic body and gorgeous face immediate deh tuh mob guy gulped as he comments : " BMW ya ! " Or " Toyota is mah ! " And so on , including if there is a girl with a body weight beyond the normal size be said - katain , " well if that 's still rolling machines ! " Wow , you've dont keep mah eyes , insulting people anyway . Astaghfirullah .
self-conscious
Temen2 , conscious self- yuk . How else, people who ngelakuin crime or immorality is clear he is not aware . Yes , do not realize that their actions be considered by Allah Ta'ala . Nyadar not that what he does will be held accountable by Allah Ta'ala . Not aware if what he did could have a negative impact not only on him , but also to the people around him . Pity they really do bear the shame or bring kebawa ugly immoral because we do ? For example, you commit adultery , you know that hurt a lot . Starting from your family , your friends, your school , your teachers , including couples zinamu family , his friends , the school and others. Think before you act .
Come on , fix your perspective on relationships with the opposite sex . If not able to marry, do not be reckless adultery . If still in school , so the focus of learning , not dating . Can you? Must ! Inshallah can . Bismillah [ Solihin | Twitter : @ osolihin ]
Source: http://www.gaulislam.com/pacarmu-bukan-suamimu , http://islamdiaries.tumblr.com/post/33829059790/pacarmu-bukan-suami-mu
Teman2 , Qadarullah I ( writer ) often come to help the print edition of the magazine distribution to the schools . I can see up close , explore the child's feelings about his teachers . Not a few teachers who share or vent about the condition of the students in the school . Especially the slang freely with the opposite sex . I also realize that it is not easy to change the condition of those who already suck this melting . Limitation of association between men and women that do not exist already fairly safe distance again . How not , many children are not just a girl holding hands with her boyfriend , but I entered a very intimate level : sag ( icky , emangnya monkeys use gelayutan all ! ) . Hehehe .. I mean : a girl 's that very closely by the hand of her boyfriend , until her head already nyender - nyender to the guy 's arm . Incidentally boyfriend towering Petronas Towers tub , while girls in mini-sized . So , Bener right half gelayutan ? Non Ckckck ... conscious , it is not your husband 's that guy ! ( which I 've seen worse behavior models gini nih students from schools labeled religion . Oops ! )
Teman2 , the condition of boy-girl relationships among teens weve already many are excessive . Yes , although some say future ' handrails just wrote really at issue , but for me it's been heavy offense . It was already close to adultery , Bener ! Well , just do not approach adultery be especially adultery . So true word of Allah Ta'ala . in al - Quran ( which means) : " And come not nigh to fornication ; actual adultery was a heinous act and an evil way " ( Surah al - Israa : 32 )
His sin how is that? Wow , great euy ! Imam Ahmad said : " I do not know a sin after sin kills the soul - which is greater than the sin of adultery . "
Allaah says (which means ) : " And those who do not worship any other god along with Allah and do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden ( to kill ) except with ( reason ) is true , and do not fornicate , so whoever did it , surely he gets ( retaliation ) sin (it) , ( ie ) torment will be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection , and he will be forever in torment , in a state of humiliation except those who repent ... " ( Surah al - Furqaan [ 25 ] : 68-70 )
In this verse , according to Ibn Qayyim al - Iman Jauziyah , God confront adultery with shirk and killing a soul , and a verdict in the penalty is eternal torment double weight , as long as the perpetrators are not neutralize it by means repent , believe and do good deeds .
Duh horrified really. So , not until you deh involved adultery . Including the need to be aware that abstinence is not a desperate attempt bin close to adultery . The reason , few people directly adultery when met with the opposite sex . At least there's no process initially . Courtship , for example . Well , dating is the gateway to adultery tuh . I'm sure really if that path with boy-girl school , holding hands ( especially the really intimate jalannnya until the guy hugging his girlfriend waist ) must again courtship . Let's admit ! Conscious yes , your boyfriend is not your husband . Not entitled to intimate - tuh mesraan despite interest you guys . For the guys also do easement , girlfriend not your wife . Not yet valid . Ride a motorcycle without a license wrote a ticket , let alone a motor that you carry is not no vehicle registration and BPKB her , might be seized tuh ama motorcycle police officer . That means , a girl who you hug the waist , you ride on a bicycle on the bike your bike , you chat with all night laughing - ketiwi telephone is not your wife . Unlawful to engage in activities that can be conducted by a husband and wife . And of course his actions violated the rules of Allah Ta'ala . and His Messenger . Ati - ati teman2 ya !
Keep your eyes !
According to Imam Ibn Qayyim al - Jauziyah , because the end of the base of this vile fornication of the eyes , then God put the command to turn over the eye before the command to keep the pubic . Many major disaster whose origins are of the view . Like a great fire origin was a small spark . That is why , at first only the view , then delusion , further concrete steps , the next there was a disaster that was a big mistake ( adultery ) .
Imam Ibn Qayyim also convey that whoever could keep four things it means that he has saved his religion . The four things are: Al - Lahazhat ( first look ) , Al - Khatharat ( thoughts that come to mind ) , Al - Lafazhat ( tongue and speech ) , Al - Khathawat ( concrete steps for a deed ) .
The Messenger of Allaah alaihi wassallam said : " The view that eye ( like ) a poisoned arrow from a wide variety of arrows of the devil. Whoever gaze from the beauty - beauty of the woman , God delights in passing in his heart until the day he met him " (Ahmad )
Repeated view is that the biggest lighter to light a fire until the fire burned with longing . People who looked at with only cursory rarely get a sense in love . But over and repeat the view that is the source of destruction . Therefore , the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam commanded us to subdue the view that the liver is maintained. From Jarir ibn Abd Allah , he said ,
سألت رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - عن نظر الفجاءة فأمرنى أن أصرف بصرى
" I asked the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam on view only briefly ( not intentionally ) . Then the Prophet sallallaahu ' alaihi wa sallam commanded me that I immediately turned my gaze . " [ HR . Muslim no. 2159 ]
Mujahid said ,
غض البصر عن محارم الله يورث حب الله
" Subjecting the views of various things forbidden by Allah , will lead to a love of God . " [ Majmu ' Al- Fataawa , 15/394 , Dar al Wafa ' , third printing , in 1426 H ] . Means hold the views of women who are not mahram will cause a sense of God's love . Subjecting the view here is there are two kinds of same-sex genitalia looked and looked at women who are not mahram .
Three avail of lower his gaze have been mentioned by the Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah [ Majmu ' Al Fataawa , 15/420-426 ] .
First : It would taste sweet and delicious faith . Whoever leaves something for Allah , He will replace it with a better one.
Second : It will shed light on the heart and will have a hunch that is so brilliant .
Third : It would be more encouraging.
Allah Almighty revealed verse 30-31 of the letter an- Nuur : " Say to the man who believed : " Let their gaze , and maintaining his cock ; such it is purer for them , surely Allah is Aware of what is they do . Say to the believing women : " Let their gaze , and maintaining his cock , and they do not show her jewelry , except for the ( usual ) appear thereof . Cover with a cloth and let them crippled to his chest , and not to show off her jewelry , " ( verse Nuur [ 24 ] :30 - 31 )
Since then the Muslims are commanded to keep the view can bring their lust .
Well , if my friends frequent guy right eyes darting like a thief would look in a girl fitting clothesline . Moreover girlfriend shiny clear ( dishes Kalee ! ) . Sometimes when it's a boy to join the gang going wild added . For example , judging a girl who passes in front of them personified by car . Once there was a girl with a fantastic body and gorgeous face immediate deh tuh mob guy gulped as he comments : " BMW ya ! " Or " Toyota is mah ! " And so on , including if there is a girl with a body weight beyond the normal size be said - katain , " well if that 's still rolling machines ! " Wow , you've dont keep mah eyes , insulting people anyway . Astaghfirullah .
self-conscious
Temen2 , conscious self- yuk . How else, people who ngelakuin crime or immorality is clear he is not aware . Yes , do not realize that their actions be considered by Allah Ta'ala . Nyadar not that what he does will be held accountable by Allah Ta'ala . Not aware if what he did could have a negative impact not only on him , but also to the people around him . Pity they really do bear the shame or bring kebawa ugly immoral because we do ? For example, you commit adultery , you know that hurt a lot . Starting from your family , your friends, your school , your teachers , including couples zinamu family , his friends , the school and others. Think before you act .
Come on , fix your perspective on relationships with the opposite sex . If not able to marry, do not be reckless adultery . If still in school , so the focus of learning , not dating . Can you? Must ! Inshallah can . Bismillah [ Solihin | Twitter : @ osolihin ]
Source: http://www.gaulislam.com/pacarmu-bukan-suamimu , http://islamdiaries.tumblr.com/post/33829059790/pacarmu-bukan-suami-mu
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